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The 21st Century Salonnière's avatar

One of the most pernicious aspects of this trend is the way it scoops up kids with a variety of existing mental health problems and provides the explanation that “they’re trans.”

The adults in the room, who should know better, go along with it. They see a bunch of kids with a variety of social and emotional problems and they attribute their problems to “being trans” (so we must transition them) or “being trans in a cold cruel world” (so we need to love-bomb them and accommodate them more, more, more).

The overall poor mental health of these kids provides the “evidence” that more and more must be done to “affirm” them -- basically providing validation that yes, hating their existing bodies is healthy and appropriate, and so let’s undertake drastic cosmetic steps to change how you look! -- but really it reminds me of the fact that muggings and ice cream consumption are higher in the summer.

When we look at these trans-identifying kids and see the overall precarious state of their mental health, and we attribute their unhappiness to “being trans,” we’re basically saying something akin to “Eating ice cream causes muggings.”

What happens when a bunch of already emotionally unwell kids, the kids who were already outsiders for a whole host of reasons, find an “explanation” for their outsider status and a way to get positive attention from adults and other kids at school? (Especially in a place like Davis, where such efforts by well-meaning people are over the top?)

Of course a bunch of kids are going to latch on to this as the explanation of their existing problems, especially if they didn’t fit in to begin with, and especially if they see that all the other quirky outsiders latch onto it too.

Finally, an explanation for them! A solution for them! Now they have a tribe, and at least for this brief moment in time, their tribe has some cachet! Of course they are eager for it.

And everyone else is in this dynamic -- the adults, the non-trans kids -- are expected to give special attention and “be nice.”

What’s driving this phenomenon should be screamingly obvious to every adult in the room. Ice cream does not cause muggings. These kids on the fringes with a variety of problems and poor mental health are not struggling because “they’re trans.”

If most adults can understand the former, why can’t we understand the latter and put a stop to this emotional and physical dead end for kids on the fringes?

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Matt Osborne's avatar

"Nonbinary" is the null safety mechanism of gender identity. A teenager embarks on their "gender journey," finds no magical-mystical answer from the genderbread sorting hat, and achieves valid tribal membership through clothes and hair and such like signalling.

You know. The stuff we used to call "personality." Now it's "gender identity."

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