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Heartbrokenmom's avatar

This is spot on. My daughters have pretended to have Tourette’s and have self diagnosed themselves with ADHD, autism, and borderline personality disorder. They have also engaged in self harm, eating disorders, and trans identities. All because of social media. If you deny that they actually have autism, for instance, they say the guidance for diagnosis is flawed. They believe they can self diagnose and no one else is right, even a professional.

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This is so true. My 17 year old daughter is one of these kids. Her freshman year of high school, almost overnight she went from a happy, healthy girl who had friends, a variety of interests, and did well in school and spent little time on computers, and was a little socially awkward and immature, to being trans identified, tumblr obsessed, and self diagnosed with autism, ADHD, dissociative identity disorder, anxiety, and depression. She is barely passing her classes and I’m not sure she’ll graduate. She has no other activities - all her interests are solitary. She now has a few friends but went two years with none (except online). Letting her on social media was the worst mistake I ever made.

I think what motivates these kids is a deep fear of criticism. They’ve grown up in an environment where everything bad that happens has to be blamed on someone. And that someone is never presented in a nuanced way, a person who made mistakes or used poorly chosen words but also has good points and a capacity to learn. If someone is accused of racism, or sexism, or profiting at the expense of others, they are vilified, with no possibility of redemption. This is what happened to my kid. She was bullied and criticized at her high school for being “privileged” - too white, to “cis-het”, too financially well-off. All of this is a shield against criticism. Kids are looking for explanations that place them in a protected category, that say that it’s not their fault that they’re socially awkward or lack confidence or aren’t the best at everything - it’s because they have a condition!

My observation is that sensitivity and a tendency toward self-blame are the core characteristics of kids who’ve fallen into this mess.

We need to fight the urge to find yet someone else to blame for this and promote a mindset of understanding, forgiveness, and accepting alternative opinions and viewpoints.

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