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Ute Heggen's avatar

Thanks for this! I appreciate every inherited trait I have from my parents and thoroughly ground my worldview as a female one. In my latest movement video at Ute Heggen YT channel, I introduce the 5 minute clip with a plug for this substack and urge my viewers to become paid subscribers for exactly this valuable content. Every word, into random and chosen ears, counts.

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Steersman's avatar

Your last sentence reminds me of a phrase -- "the grave will supply plenty of time for silence" --from a relatively famous quote of Christopher Hitchens:

“Beware the irrational, however seductive. Shun the 'transcendent' and all who invite you to subordinate or annihilate yourself. Distrust compassion; prefer dignity for yourself and others. Don't be afraid to be thought arrogant or selfish. Picture all experts as if they were mammals. Never be a spectator of unfairness or stupidity. Seek out argument and disputation for their own sake; the grave will supply plenty of time for silence. Suspect your own motives, and all excuses. Do not live for others any more than you would expect others to live for you.”

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/37722-beware-the-irrational-however-seductive-shun-the-transcendent-and-all

Though more than a few other phrases there have more than passing relevance as well ...

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Ute Heggen's avatar

As I tromp around outside, in my overalls and heavy garden gloves, I say to myself, "What the heck is "gender-non-conforming"? Why was my kind, nurturing father called a "mothering kind of man," which he took as a great compliment--he was never a mere spectator to stupidity. He never used the "she" pronoun for my ex-husband. Others in the family, thinking they needed to 'lead the way,' did.

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Kind of think you answered your own question in liking a previous comment of mine about a 4th Wave Now article by Colin & co-authors ... 😉:

https://www.realityslaststand.com/p/the-origins-of-two-sexes/comment/10477447

That's the nature of joint probability distributions -- there tends to be an overlap; many individuals in one distribution are likely to exhibit traits more common among individuals in the other distribution. Unfortunate though that statistics tends to be "counter-intuitive" which results in that point not being readily or easily understood by many people.

But, speaking of "gender non-conforming", you might also like a very good guest post -- and my comment thereon 🙂😉 -- over at Broadview on an "An Ode to the Tomboys and Butch Lesbians":

https://lisaselindavis.substack.com/p/guest-essay-an-ode-to-the-tomboys/comment/10407458

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